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Poison in the Well: Michigan School Proposed Policy not so Popular with Parents



Michigan's State Board of Education issued an interesting Press Release earlier, regarding transgender school guidelines certain poison-in-the-wellers (Rick Snyder/John C Austin) tried not so skillfully to sneak (like Flint's lead water) into our Michigan schools:
I have a thorough break down of the guidelines eugenics program here and here.

This latest release highlights the extension (by 30 days) for public comment from parents/teachers and concerned citizens, after already having received over 3,000 comments. Perusing the comments, it is obvious why the school board is extending comments for 30 more days, the majority of commenters are rightfully outraged! Clearly the extension is meant to generate more comments (how many are really John C Austin's and company?) in favour of the misleading (transgender suicides occur in majority after transition) sexist homophobic piece of propagandize child abuse.

Note, in the first notice for these changes in Michigan school guidelines, gays and lesbians were conveniently added as the children/teens to be helped, the second notice specified transgender students only and now gay and lesbian children/teens are back in the saddle again. Gay and lesbian children/teens are being used like cattle by a governor (Rick Snyder) who is already responsible for the deaths of Flint children/mental retardation from lead poisoning in Flint children and John C. Austin who has a hankering for Lolitaesque girls. Whether Rick and John are closet cross dressers, or sympathize with school boy's longings to gain entrance into girls bathrooms/showers and compete against girls in sports because they'd fail miserably against other boys, that team Rick and John will use gay and lesbian children/teens to achieve their aims is abundantly clear.

The general public (at least in Michigan) is finally pissed off at transgender blitzkriegs barreling over the human rights of others, so let the transtastic troupe topple-add your comments to the pissed off parents who are putting their children before political correctness.

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Persons wanting to provide their input on the Draft Guidance can do so at: www.everyvoicecountsmi.org



Lesbian: What it Means-What it Is

In regard to numerous confused and angry responses to recent posts regarding Straightbians, it's become abundantly clear that few know and/or understand (besides lesbians) what a lesbian is, or what the term lesbian means.
 The primary confusion seems to be putting behavior over biology.  Just a few examples of statements (both online and in person) exemplifying this confusion/misunderstanding are as follows:
  •  If someone says they are a lesbian, then they are a lesbian, regardless of behavior.
  • A straight woman can decide to be a lesbian because she is sick of men/abused by men/femalecentric politics etc, and POOF! it is magically so.  
  •  "I knew a woman who was married to a man and had children and later came out as a lesbian, so that PROVES that any woman can be a lesbian."
This thinking is problematic for a plethora of reasons. Some of the main reasons being:
  • It implies that being a lesbian is a choice.Such thinking would also conversely imply that a lesbian could simply sleep with a man and POOF! she would be straight, and that is a very dangerous and incorrect assumption that leads to the harassment, stalking, and corrective rape of lesbians
  • It naively ignores the myriad of reasons why actual lesbians may initially partner with a man when they are young:  family pressures, societal expectations, religious guilt/fear, the need for acceptance, temperament, thinking that they can fake being straight to have a so-called "easier" life (which turns out not to be "easier" after all because they are denying their true selves which leads to distress, depression, anxiety, or even suicide unless they become strong enough to come out).  If the world suddenly magically lost all of its lesbophobia, lesbians of all temperaments/familial backgrounds/religions etc would simply date other lesbians from grade school dances on up, never feeling pressure to date men. But for Straightbians, nothing would change-unhappy/abusive relationships with men whereby they would still seek greener pastures with lesbians.
  •  To even think like this reeks of straight privilege. It is heterosexual privilege to think you know more about lesbian life than actual lesbians.  It is straight privilege to assume you can know what it is like to be a lesbian.   
  • As mentioned earlier, this thinking focuses on behavior rather than biology; on what you DO versus who you ARE. In other words, this simplistic thinking assumes that if a women sleeps with a woman, she is automatically a lesbian. 
There is only ONE way to become a lesbian, and that is genetically engineered as a lesbian in utero.
 
When born a lesbian:
  • You know from a few years of age you are different.
  • You know from kindergarten or 1st grade you are attracted to other girls "that way". Even if you do not have the language for which to describe your feelings.
  • You may be in a family/religion/society etc that makes it very clear as a girl you will one day be expected to be married with children. These pressures do cause some lesbians to behave as heterosexually expected. They may marry men and have children with men. Doing so however does NOT alter their biology. It is no different than a black woman marrying and having children with a white man, the black woman STILL remains a black woman.
  • You may do all of the above; marry a man/have children with a man etc and come out when you are older and more secure with yourself. Regardless, closet lesbians KNOW they are in the closet. 
  • You may have such an intense fear of coming out, you may behave as a heterosexual woman your entire life. You may NEVER have a romantic relationship with another lesbian your whole life long. BUT regardless of this behaviour, you are still a lesbian.
  • You could fuck 10,000 men, but the entire time you are doing it, you would still remain a lesbian.
Between my wife and I we comprise a century of lesbianism, neither of us are prudes and neither of us believe all lesbians are Gold Star dykes like us. But as lesbians, who know and have known tons of other lesbians, we know no matter how or when you come out and taste life itself-you NEVER go back. 

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Straightbian: An Ongoing Discussion

While I am leaving these responses intact, the comment made by AnonymousMarch 27, 2016 at 5:24 PM on the post Lesbian: What it Means-What it Is, my wife, Dr A,wanted to address this comment also in a separate post and add to the reply, given its importance.

  • Anon: "I certainly appreciate this post and is a very important very unaddressed topic. I think most people aren't articulating their discomfort properly and attacking lesbian space,which has become some kind of open ground for people...I am bothered by some aspects of this though and namely that is if you are a lesbian you knew immediatly as a child. There are a number of factors that could seriosly impede a little girls self understanding. Most obvious as number 1 is compulsory heterosexuality, she may feel different, she may crave attention from girls and discomfort around boys when a hetero dynamic becomes apparent. But how would she know how to name this? Compulsory heterosexuality basically renders homosexuality nonexistant and invisible, so how could she necessarily name and understand her feelings? That's not even factoring in internalized homophobia? Young gays and lesbians who may know something about themselves as fundamentally different but act out against themselves hatefully and heterosexually. I basically mean being in the closet to yourself. I think that is real.
Reply: Thanks for your comment and I appreciate the respectful discussion.  I will try to address all of your points, but please let us know if you have any questions or want to discuss further. 

I think your point about lesbian space is a great one, and I agree it can make it difficult to hear each other when everyone feels attacked and invaded.  Our posts about "straightbians" have certainly generated much animosity, misunderstandings, and false accusations. 

Of course, I don't intend to speak for all lesbians, but both of us have been out for a long time and have known many, many lesbians both online and offline, so our assertions are based on much real-life experience, conversations, and observations, as well as extensive reading and thought into the matter by both of us.

Dirt addressed the term "compulsory heterosexuality" in her replies, so I won't reiterate that information here. I agreewith Dirt that lesbians do KNOW early on that we are lesbians, even if we don't have the words to explain our feelings of being different than peers and our feelings of orientation toward other females. 

There are indeed numerous pressures from family/society/religion to be straight, and some lesbians do initially attempt to be someone they are not by marrying men. But the ones I have known who did so say they always KNEW that they were just marrying a man to please their parents/community/church; and that they did not feel "right"/"normal" in the fake lives they were presentingInternalized homophobia, as you mentioned, is also a very real thing that can lead to many consequences.

We are not saying that any of this is easy.  It is often very difficult for lesbians to come out of the closet: so difficult, in fact, that many of us do try to deny it or try to hide it for many years (or even, in some sad cases, a lifetime).

  • Anon:"Another aspect i wanted to mention is yes sexual abuse and assault. Considering girls and women are heavily abused and violated. I saw in another post that when you are sexually abused you might act out sexually but within your own sexual orientation. I dont think that's entirely correct either. I think you will act out in ways that closely mirror your trauma which most likely will be with the sex of your abuser. I think this a very important topic. Its not to say lesbianism is for women who have been abused as an escape. The likelihood of this type of assault and at what age is majorly impacted by race and class circumstances. So for lesbians that have been unfortunately attacked this can be very difficult to go through? Can a woman NOT be a lesbian because shes been violated? What if this happened before she could fully understand her sexuality and she acts out? Will she be forced into heterosexuality the rest of her life. It in effect actualizes corrective rape. Considering how heavily this happens to young girls(a portion of which are lesbian right?) and how this affects already marginalized little girls often."
ReplyRegarding the topic of sexual abuse: it is a very complex topic that is way outside the scope of a single post. Actually, several books would not even begin to adequately cover the topic.

Basically, whatwe are saying is that if someone has been sexually abused (and having residual issues as an adult), the feelings/issues generated because of the sexual abuse do need to be acknowledged and dealt with by the survivor with safe and affirming means.

Simply defaulting to "I'm a lesbian" (in other words, saying they are a lesbian to avoid men when they are not ACTUALLY a lesbian) is not fair to either the survivor herself or a lesbian partner (although that reaction is understandable). 

Of course, as you mentioned, both straight girls and lesbian girls are subjected to sexual abuse, and again, the abuse issues need to be sorted out and the person's true orientation acknowledged, whichever it is. 

We have both personally known women who did not deal with their own abuse-related issues, and defaulted to (alleged) "lesbian" because they did not want to be with men, and sadly ended up hurting their lesbian partners because those particular women were NEVER lesbian to begin with.  Again, those are not healthy situations for either party. 

We are NOT bashing abuse survivors, as others have incorrectly said. Also, we are NOT saying that all "straightbians" are abuse survivors. 

We are simply saying that everyone, no matter who they are or what their background is, needs to do whatever it takes to be honest with themselves and with their partners about what their true sexual/emotional/romantic orientation is. 
  • Anon: "These things feed the idea if you arent sure of yourself of your sexuality for whatever reason you are defaulted to straight. If you dont KNOW(by when exactly?) you cant be gay or lesbian, but what if you arent sure(but you are gay or lesbian), this is the breeding ground for compulsory heterosexuality isn't? Or considering heterosexuality is the default thinking your a "normal" heterosexual despite dissatisfaction until something happens for you to understand you are not like them?... until you have your first same sex experience(with someone or even internally, conceptually)?....I remember when i was struggling to make sense of my experiences i was looking at tons and tons of coming out and awakening stories. I came across this poll(an online poll so take it as you will) asked how old you were when you understood/came out to yourself? Most people either where around puberty or young adulthood but also some later in life. The smallest category was people who knew since they were born/or very young children. Are known since birth gays and lesbians the only valid gays and lesbians?"

Reply:  The age at which a lesbian would report that she "understood/came out to herself" would indeed likely be different than the age when she first noticed that she was "different". So the way a survey is worded would make a difference on the reported age.  

Given the lack of lesbian visibility, and the lack of language to adequately describe our childhood feelings, it would make sense that many do not actually understand or come out to themselves until later, when language, maturity, and experience has grown to be able to articulate being a lesbian. So those findings don't contradict the lived experience of lesbians who sensed from an early age that we are different and oriented toward females.

Again, though, behavior may (or may not) be different than orientation.  Some lesbians may come out immediately, while others may first try to fit in with society by pretending to be straight to please others. This obviously really varies from person to person for a variety of reasons, including, but not limited to, personality/temperament, family, culture, religion, degree of desire to assimilate, etc.  

Bottom line: What we are saying is that women are either naturally attracted to other women in EVERY way...or not. To say "I am sick of men, I am jumping teams" or "I realize that we are all oppressed by patriarchy and I want to devote my energies to women" or "Hey! It would be fun to be with a woman" or "My boyfriend likes to watch" does not make someone a lesbian. If someone is honest and says any of those things (or variations thereof) to a lesbian, and the lesbian still wants to enter into a relationship on those honest terms...we say that's fine and we wish them all the best ifthat works for both of them. 

Everybody is ultimately responsible for their own lives, and if a lesbian is duly informed, then the choice is clearly hers to do as she pleases. What we are saying, though, is if the "straightbian" is not honest with herself and/or her partner about her true inherent heterosexual orientation, then the lesbian partner is being misled and not truly consentingto the relationship as-is. Everybody deserves to know who/what they are sleeping with and to give consent under true terms.

Mrs. Dirt


No Longer Doing Woman Different-No Longer Doing Woman: Skyler Cooper

It is with great sadness and sorrow that I bring you this news, one of the few known Butches among us, Skyler Cooper is no more.
Skyler has succumbed to the dis/ease currently plaguing our lesbian youth (and a few oldies) world wide, transgenderism. Skyler said in a past interview regarding acting and being different "I had one bad experience that almost turned me away from theater altogether. My first theater coach said to me, 'You know you're going to have to not work out; you're going to have to change your body. You're a little too muscular to do this work.'Because I was old enough and wise enough when I started [acting classes], I knew I should stop seeing her. She was trying to tell me I can't be who I am." Skylar went on to say "If I'm going to do theater, I need to be who I am to see if I even love the craft. If the craft won't let me express myself and bring me and my talent to it, why would I want it in my life? I love this quote from [Russian actor] Stanislavsky: 'Love the art in yourself, not yourself in the art.'"

Whatever former commitment, confidence, integrity and character Skylar had in the past, it has been worn down to a thin nub. As a Butch myself I can certainly appreciate the frustrations Skylar has suffered in the tv/film industry. Having never seen a Butch lesbian in a major film, tv show, billboard or magazine would only be magnified as a Butch struggling to be the first. Even Skylar's Shakespearean regard for acting; an actor-is an actor-is an actor and no part is off limit regardless of sex/race or religion, has opened no doors for her.

It had to chap Skyler's hide, seeing the tidal wave of transgender films, tv and reality shows, flash-in-the-pan seeming successes of geriatric athlete/actors like Bruce Jenner performing porno parodies of constructed (social/medical/surgical) femininity, including murder while breezing down the highway, wind in his hair, singing along to Lady Gaga whilst putting on much too much mascara (eyes on the vanity mirror rather than the road) yet still achieving woMAN of the year and a reality hit show to boot.

Skyler once said "It's hot when a woman is strong — and not imitating a male." Somewhere Cooper stopped believing what she said.
"If I'm doing good work as an African-American butch woman, my peer group is going to see that, and it will bring credibility to a group of people who are often invisible."

Skyler Cooper Butch Lesbian, died recently. She has been replaced with a synthetically constructed prop, Hollywood style. But like all stage props, it is the actors who are remembered, not the gun they wield in their hand, the chair they sit their bum on or the bedspread ripped off and thrown onto the floor for a Lifetime love scene. Props arent invisible, but they are unremembered.

RIP Sklyer Butch Lesbian Woman Cooper

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Trans Trending-Who is Transitioning-A Blueprint for Transmen


Loretta Age 20

Alex-Lee Age 19

Evan Age 16

John Age 19

Jude Age 22

Felix Age 18

Mar Age 16

Kris Age 20

Reu Age 16

Carson Age 16

Aiden Age 23

Anth Age 17

Chris Age 16

Andy Age 22

Max Age 18

Trae Age 17

Kristian Age 16

GTF Age 15

Since I've been a tad remiss with documenting Who is Transitioning posts due to other endeavors, I've doubled up in this post.

I've recently received these unpublished comments on an older post which reveals some of the simplistic Gender Straight Jacketed thinking coming from Trans Trenders:
The commenter is so ensnared within constructed social roles, she tries to pit a trans female's maleness (which she as a biological woman doesnt possess) hierarchically (she's more of a MAN than you) over mine (which I as a biological woman do not-nor would I want to-possess). She clearly has no understanding or knowledge of lesbians or how lesbians function inside/outside patriarchy as different kinds of women.

She doesnt bother to read-pause-comprehend the post she commented on, anymore than bothering to look (even skim) other posts (there are numerous along with comments) to realize I'm married to Dr A.


And she makes mention multiple times in the these two short comments to me; joblessness, homelessness, relationshipless, spending inordinate amounts of time looking/masturbating to online porn and sex with MEN! Transference much? Characteristics can be found in the singular, combination or the entirety in countless trans females past, present and what many in this post as well, will be subject to in future. 

In short, the commenter's remarks are a blueprint for ALL lesbian (and hetero female)transitions. Transition falsely promises (along with trans females themselves) strength, fearlessness, power, virility and all around success. Instead, trans female fears are magnified, paranoia swirls throughout familial/social/employment situations, despite growing muscle they lack power and an uncomfortable dramatic increase in their sex drive alters sexual attraction, reason and all former morals.

NO trans female is MORE of a man than I am, because we're ALL women. But only ONE of us has the strength, the courage and the power to live proudly as one.

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The dirt From Dirt & the Right of FREE Speech


Trans Trending posts often generate a great deal of emotions from readers:
  • Fear from readers worried about lesbian youth falling prey to the transgender cult.
  • Concern for the health of Trans Trenders.
  • Anger at the Trans Politic and social media mesmerizing lesbian youth with false promises
  • Vitriol from Trans Political media spinners.
  • Seething fear and hatred from Trans Trenders themselves, those featured here, those not and those who wished they were.
The greatest ire stems from the legal use of PUBLIC photos (ALWAYS) accompanied by proper links crediting the user for the purpose of documenting a weekly sample of Who is Transitioning, thereby educating readers on the rise of lesbian transition and the decrease in ages of lesbians being transitioned. As a result, the life of this blog and my own life are routinely threatened, this is just the latest death threat to The dirt From Dirt AND LAWFUL FREE SPEECH ('theU.S.SupremeCourtdeclaredthattheFirstAmendmentprotectsopenandrobustdebate on publicissues,evenwhensuchdebate' are "vehement,caustic,unpleasantlysharp")
Another Change.Org petition was created today to counter the above 1st Rights Amendment abuses. From the petition I support The Dirt's blog:

  • It is scary that The Dirt's free speech is threatened by take down of her blog by Google.  There is a change dot org petition demanding that action. This petition counters with a demand to Google to KEEP The Dirt's blog posted and support her free speech.
Whether or not you support this blog, if you support FREE Speech, sign petition here.

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Straightbians You May Know

In continued effort to clarify misinterpretations regarding the recent Straightbian posts, my wife and I comprised a SMALL list of well known Straightbians. Hoping that by putting a face on Straightbian, dykes can better steer clear of them and Straightbians can see themselves in a mirror that does not have FUN written in front of it.
  1. Anne (Call me Crazy) Heche: Minor actress who bamboozled famous lesbian comedian Ellen DeGeneres. Heche went from men men men to Ellen and back to men men where she resides today. Typical Straightbian Quotes by Anne: "I felt cared for … I felt free to express a part of me that I had not been able to express with a man."......"You fall in love with a person, not a sex.".....We do not fall in love with the package of the person, we fall in love with the inside of a person.”
  2. Cynthia (Gay is a Choice) Nixon: Minor actress, forgotten in her many small parts, remembered for her part in Sex and the City-the heterotastic HBO show. Typical Straightbian Quotes by Nixon: "What I Have 'chosen' Is To Be In A Gay Relationship."...."I Don't Define Myself. I'm Just A Woman In Love With Another Woman."...."I believe we all have different ways we came to the gay community and we can't and shouldn't be pigeon-holed into one cultural narrative which can be uninclusive and disempowering."
  3. Julie (I'm just not Gay) Cypher: Cypher is only known for partnering with well known film/music stars. Most well known was her marriage to Lou Diamond Phillips whereby she cheated on him to snag lesbian musician Melissa Etheridge, whom she later pulled an Anne Heche on, saying: "I've tried and I've tried these last couple (12) years, and I'm just not gay".
  4. Judy (palimony) Nelson: Nelson is known solely for her relationship with tennis star Martina (love 'em and lock 'em out) Navratilova and Martina's ex Rita Mae (Trans? Rubyfruit Jungle) Brown. In perfect Straightbian lingo Judy has said "kissing a woman is the same as kissing a man" and after the Martina/Rita years she has went on to date both women and men. 
  5. JoAnn (I co-opted Femme and $old thousands of books to dykes) Loulan: Loulan came onto the lesbian scene primarily through her books like-The Lesbian Erotic Dance: Butch, Femme, Androgyny, and Other Rhythms...Lesbian Passion: Loving Ourselves and Each Other....Lesbian Sex. Loulan, a psychotherapist co-opted/usurped and dicktated Straitbianism UNDER the guise of lesbian. Loulan appeared on tv shows like Oprah, Geraldo, Donahue, 20/20 as a LESBIAN expert rather than the lesbian imposter/charlatan/fraud that she was. Loulan, like many Straightbians gave the general public HER HETEROSEXUAL interpretation of lesbian, further painting lesbian as real into a darker corner. Written like a true Straightbian:
  6. Amber (I stole attention/resources from REAL lesbians at the 25th Anniversary GLAAD Awards) Heard: Minor actress currently married to Johnny Depp who said previously that "GLAAD is one of the many reasons that I, as a 24-year-old, can come out". Hmmm is coming out as STRAIGHT a thing now that requires gay and lesbian financial support?
  7. Lindsay (I kissed a girl DJ) Lohan: Train wreck child actress who likes the male/media pornofied attention she's receives from kissing girls but says "I know I’m straight. I have made out with girls before, and I had a relationship with a girl. But I think I needed to experience that and I think I was looking for something different."
  8. Alice (Telling Stories)Walker: American novelist who when she hit 50 had her first lesbian relationship (gag) by having a ménage à trois between her, her then husband and another female. This followed a few other sexual encounters with women then it was back to men where Walker has remained. Lesbianism for Walker was just like the love she has for her daughter- A CHOICE! 
  9. Loree (killHER) Cook-Daniels: Loree is the epitome of the most dangerous Straightbians of all. Unhappy with hetero-domesticity, Loree hitched a ride on the radical feminist bandwagon where she made the CHOICE to be a LESBIAN-feminist. She partnered with a insecure dyke whom she supported right into transitioning to a man. Her partner, now called Marcelle-could not adjust to transition and later committed suicide. Loree's work has and continues to focus on transgender (she has a penchant for female eunuchs-looks like a man but much easier to boss around) and she comforts herself regarding her lesbianism by saying "many (lesbian) partners discover they actually have a preference for FTMs". Sorry Loree, you're confusing STRAIGHTBIANS with dykes! 
  10. Amber (lesbian sex radical, ex-hooker, incest survivor, gypsy child, poor-white-trash, high femme dyke-her description not mine) Hollibaugh: Amber is known to lesbians because her distaste for dick lead her to be an expert on Butch/Femme relationships. I know-I fail to see a connection too. Amber rather than deal with her abusive background with males, used her hetero-hierarchy to default to lesbian, write/publish and in Straightbian fashion, teach as a lesbian and DICKtate lesbian TO lesbians!
This is a minute variety sample of the GREAT number of Straightbians past and present who have wreaked havoc directly on lesbians, the lesbian community, lesbian spaces and maybe MOST importantly the INCORRECT notion of what a lesbian is and the legitimacy of REAL lesbians who have no CHOICE in who we are/who we're sexually/emotionally and spiritually compelled toward.

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A Radical Feminist Equation (- Feminism+Psychosis=Stasis)



...And you sit there and talk revolution
but can you tell me just who's in command?
when you tell me the forces we are fighting
then I'll gladly join and make plans
but for now only our t-shirts cry freedom
and our voices are gagged by our greed
our minds are harnessed by knowledge
by the hill and the will to succeed
and if that's not what you believe
would you just let me know I'm not standing alone
that I'm not just a voice in the crowd...

From Vigil in a Wilderness of Mirrors by Fish

These lyrics were written in the late 1980's but they could easily apply to the current state of feminism, particularly the sect calling itself Radical Feminism, aka RadFem. Sadly the only revolution existing among RadFems consists of idle chatter, tweets, FB shares and some kindergarten arts and crafts even. There is also at any given time a discrepancy regarding who exactly they’re fighting: men, men claiming to be women, men who haven’t had SRS, men who have, women claiming to be men, women who “look” like men, women who “act” like men, the rich, the poor, whites, non white, academics, non academics, feminists, non feminist, lesbians, non lesbians, prostitutes, men who pick up prostitutes, sex slavery, the porn industry…an endless list. And that’s not to say that there isn’t an overwhelming list of issues that feminists/RadFems need to address, there is. But instead of agreeing on a single issue and tackling that issue till it no longer is a threat like some of former suffragettes/feminists of yesteryear, current RadFems are busy at work retweeting and FB sharing articles with each other, along with copious pats on the back for doing so. Meanwhile the only women privy to RadFem tweets and FB shares are the small few who are on each others private lists. The women who truly NEED feminist news, particularly feminist interventions, remain on the outside. For they are either too poor, too black, too non English speaking, too uneducated, too busy selling their bodies to feed their children, too, too, too. RadFems however aren't interested in too's.

RadFems covet, then monkey see/monkey do Dworkinesque hypocrisies of; ignore mental health troubles, child speak, narcissism, classism, racism, lezbophobia, male hatred, two facedness, misogyny etc. Women (straightbians) claiming lesbian asylum for political reasons. Women working with Trans male clients from 9 to 5 while in their spare time demanding “twanz-women” stay out of women’s spaces. Women making exceptions for Trans males who have had their “penis” mutilated. Women more invested in getting laid than in making the world a better place for females in the future. Women with slews of mental diagnosis made from the very male medical machine that is now transitioning children in order to eradicate homosexuals, in short, women incapable of revolutionary thought or action alike. It is these motley crew who are supposed to be some of today’s leading feminists, but you wont find a radical or feminist between the lot of them. But you might find them among the Radical Feminists of yore, like:

Shulamith Firestone, whom you might remember for writing The Dialectic of Sex. Firestone a RadFem darling and believed RadFem ground breaker. What Firestone did manage to write before psychosis dominated her mind was as much indebted to French feminism as her strange futuristic notions of sex and child birth were hijacked from male authored dystopian novels such as (Zamyatin's We, Orwell's 1984 or Huxley's Brave New World). What I find most striking about Ms. Firestone was her mental illness, which seems to be a necessary component (glue?) of past and current RadFems. Shulamith was hospitalized at various times for "schizophrenia" whereby she later became a total recluse. As a female and as a feminist I have to be suspect of her diagnosis, but regardless, she obviously had or developed serious mental issues. And it is these mental issues that seem to be, as they were for Firestone herself, the driving force and cornerstone for Radical Feminism as we know it still.

The she-can-do-no-wrong queen bee of Radical Feminism, Straightbian Andrea Dworkin  (whom died on this day April 9th) was the walking billboard for mental illness. She claims (and I believe her) that she was molested as a girl of 10. This could have lead to her being grossly overweight/unkempt in effort to remove herself from any male gaze. Her attempt didnt work and she later married for a second time ("I love John with my heart and soul"). Her first husband, according to Dworkin, was violent/abusive and like her prostitution, lesbianism and (conveniently timed-promoting new book) rape in a Paris hotel-where proof could have existed, there exists none. Like so many Straightbians before and after her, rather than seek help and confront the gulf within her fractured psyche, she in hereto-privileged fashion declared herself a lesbian, reinforcing lesbianism as choice (all lesbians need is the right dick). RadFem warrior Dworkin built her platform from horrors and struggles (prostitution/lesbianism/rape/death threats/domestic violence) experienced by OTHER women and narcissistically claimed them as her own! It is one thing to use women's collective adversity to make important collective points or aid in passing laws benefiting women, it is quite another to flat out lie, giving rise to your own individual ego and pay check alike.

Another Radfem sweetie (born today April 9) is Valerie ("I'm no lesbian") Solanas, known as much for shooting Andy Warhol and others (to make her famous where her talents failed) as for her psychotic  SCUM Manifesto. Solanas, like Firestone was a paranoid schizophrenic and like Dworkin she also had a history of molestation. Solanas like Dworkin and Firestone claimed, she too was a lesbian although she had regular romantic/sexual relationships with men.

Past RadFems like many RadFems today are defined by their
  • deep hatred of men
  • actively seeking out individual men for attack (deserved and not deserved)
  • co-option of lesbian for personal gain
  • multiple mental illnesses-diagnosed and undiagnosed
  • Thorough lack of coping skills
While misogyny and the male power systems which support misogyny can be held accountable for some of the feeble architecture of Radical Feminism, like the RadFem trinity (Firestone/Dworkin/Solanas), most women claiming RadFem today are so collectively spiritually/mentally bankrupt even their seething hatred of men cannot unite them in a common cause. One wrong tweet or clumsy FB comment can put an interrogation spotlight on another RadFem where RadFems collectively hungrily await the verdict to tear the woman to shreds. Like Trans (you're with us or you're transphobic) Ideology, Radical Feminism isnt a place where women can freely discuss feminist issues. RadFem critique (no matter its accuracy) is swiftly labeled victim blaming, misogynist or flat out stupid. Either way, those doing the critiquing are dismissed or worst, silenced. There is nothing radical or feminist about this approach to women's issues, there is also nothing period. Radical Feminism was born in the domestic sphere, a vacuum. RadFems today may have replaced their 1970's Hoover with a high tech Dyson, but their ideas are still swirling around a dust filled container.
 
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Trans Trending-Who is Transitioning-A Lesbian Epidemic



Demi Age ??

Oliver Age 17

Dana Age 17

Ky Age 16

Ki Age 17

Danny Age 16

Landen Age 16

Wych Age 16

Ret Age ?? 


Documenting the transition of lesbians for eight plus years and having observed for more than fifteen, has evidenced an increase in the number of lesbians transitioning and a rapid decrease in the age in lesbian transition (or in some cases being transitioned by adult authority figures). Many lesbian youth arent coming out at lesbian before they head straight into transition and many more have never even had their first taste of lesbian puppy love. And lesbian pride doesnt even enter the picture.

These posts-Trans Trending-have systematically proven the above statements. Without these posts, even where true, I could be accused of so much hot air, rather than concrete documented fact. This is the real reason why this particular post series is so threatening, not because they
  • endanger underage girls
  • threaten violence
  • are hate filled
  • get trans females terminated from employment
  • make fun of trans females
 or any other slanderous amalgam. I have yet to see a single attack or petition for the take down of the very tumblr these posts are mined from. Out side of the nudity heads up, this tumbl is completely open to children, children to view and children to submit to, including children submitting nudity aka child porn, which IS illegal, not to mention immoral. Yet this blog documenting this trend among lesbians, without prejudice is put into question, and has even placed my physically safety at risk.

I spent some quality time on the Fuck Yeah FTM! tumblr recently and found a dozen pictures of the breasts and crotch areas of girls ages 16 and under, more if we count 17 year old girls. Fortunately ALL were in the US and I reported them to:
Perhaps if commenters truly cared about young girls being used/abused/degraded and exploited, they too would have reported Fuck Yeah FTM! for the clear distribution and promotion of child pornography. I did.



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ReImagining Lesbian

This blog has regularly documented the increasing exodus of female homosexuals from Lesbian to the perceived greener pastures of Transgender via the TRANScontinental railroad.

In trying to cover all the avenues taken en route to Transgender, Lesbian as prime rib for male masturbation fantasy rates very high on the WHY list for lesbian youths lost to transition.

My wife just recently sought Google's help for something she was working on regarding counseling teen lesbians, and to our great disgust and consternation, this was the result from page 1:
Gross! And inappropriate. And just plain wrong, in both the moral sense of the word, as well as in the accuracy of the meaning of the word. The next few pages werent much better, where Lesbian teen wasnt associated with porn, it was subsumed intoLGBT-dom  or falsified statistics on a growing number of LESBIAN teen pregnancies! Yeah right!

Lesbians are not pornified fodder for horny males to fantasize about as we do not want any part of male sexuality, and the women (girls?) included in the links above are not Lesbians. The Twitter Hashtag website hashtagify.me, which diagrams the highest related hashtags from one source displayed these diagrams for #Lesbian and #Teenlesbians:

No wonder the word Lesbian has become an increasingly undesirable word. How many times have you heard someone overly quick to say "I'm not a Lesbian" (with the word "Lesbian" accentuated with a disgusted grimace)?  Many now prefer to use the word  Gay, Queer or even Bisexual because of the negative connotations of the word Lesbian, regardless of the inaccuracy of the terminology. When "Lesbos" was trending on Twitter recently, there were A LOT of disappointed men who quickly realized that the tweets were about the Pope and not about some pornified-pretty-long-fingernailed-girls attacking each other in a vat of Jello. Go to Twitter and search #Lesbian or #TeenLesbians or #LesbianTeens and you might be shocked at what you will find. I warn you some of the tweets that come up are HIGHLY suspect for child pornography. This wasnt always the case, and most certainly not to this extreme. 

Identity politics sprang from the backlash caused by the tiny sliver of Lesbian pride and visibility that began to peak through in the early 1990's after decades of struggle and darkness. Lesbians/dykes were suddenly in films (independent and mainstream), suddenly on the cover of mainstream magazines with runway models or posing with their legal partners and children, suddenly new lesbian magazines were at our favorite bookstores, suddenly lesbian bookstores were everywhere, suddenly Lesbian Studies was an academic discipline, suddenly we saw lesbians sporting I Fuck to Cum Not to Conceive T shirts in general public, lesbian bars were opening up in lighted areas, lesbians were coming out on TV, at the White House and featured prominently on popular TV shows. Lesbian Chic was suddenly IN! Not that we werent always cool, only now everyone knew it!


When did Lesbian become a "dirty word"?  It has always been misused and objectified by men, but we were making some minor gains up until Queer Theory reared its post modern head (or should we say modern head post?). The word Lesbian is threatening to society, because it is, and we are, by definition, exclusionary. Lesbians exclude males from our interests, sexual and otherwise. We are perceived as the greatest threat to men because they are excluded from our sexual relationships and because the women (lesbians) in our sexual relationships are sexually satisfied after. Lesbians prioritize women over men, we make our time, our bodies and our souls available to lesbians ONLY. Men are threatened by that exclusion, fearing it could trickle over into their women.

Every gain I listed above and many I didnt mention have since drastically been lost or worse co-opted/drained of all meaning and resold under the name LESBIAN! But the manufactured Lesbian package sold today is 99% plastic and 1% lesbian and that 1% is in name ONLY! But it is THIS artificial commodified lesbian that is turning away and turning off our lesbian youth. Youth that perceives more of itself in Transgender than it does in the pre-packaged-just-add-water Lesbian. There are little to no lesbian role models for lesbian youth today. Granted transgender has the hetero male backing (media, mental illness and money), but in the age of global communications we as lesbians do not need to relay on mainstream media for representation and we know already we cannot rely on it for accurate lesbian representation.

WE HAVE TO REPRESENT LESBIANS AS LESBIANS!

Because we have lapsed in that endeavor, at this point in time alone, there will be a SERIOUS loss of lesbians in the near future due to systematic transition. Today lesbians are being stalked for transition in our schools, on the internet, on television and film, on billboards and magazines. While this is clearly a HUGE problem, had we not dropped the softball, for all the misrepresentation and transgender thievery of our lesbian narratives, the visibility of us in each of our communities spreading out into the world wide web, the number of lesbians lost to transition would have been minimal till reason once again ruled.

As it stands now Lesbian is vulgar because it is portrayed naked on all fours with a dick in its mouth, rather than the vulgar of yesteryear because we didnt subjugate ourselves to men, the male gaze or constructed hetero norms! Whether we were dykes on bikes, hairy legs and Birkenstocks, spiked hair and Doc Martens, drum circles and dream catchers, Lipstick and heelz, Softballs or Golf balls or sir'ed in the Ladies, we were strong, we were proud and we were out!

Lesbian cannot be reclaimed without lesbian being reimagined. This cannot happen without each individual lesbian representing herself in the real. Claiming lesbian when it is safe. Refusing to dilute herself with queer or gay or trans. Putting lesbians first even when we disagree with other lesbians. Telling lesbian stories of real lesbian lives. Sharing lesbian skills learned from lesbians past with lesbian youth. Building lesbian community IN your community. In a nutshell-keeping Lesbian pure!

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Remove Tumblr account Fuck Yeah FTM!

Join my wife in I in a Change.Org petition to begin (one at a time) removing websites that are in the same unhealthy vain of ProAna sites were in the past, to promote unhealthy female body image/issues in female youths and young women, particularly vulnerable lesbian youths.

The Tumblr account FuckYeahFTMs incites both mentally/emotionally unstable/vulnerable girls and young women (mostly lesbian) into Transgender Transition. It does so without any warnings or facts regarding dangerous drugs and irreversible surgeries involved in transition. FuckYeahFTM maintains and encourages child pornography. Underage girls/teens are encourage via "Topless" days to post pictures of their breast under the ruse of "alleviating" their "dysphoria".

Like ProAna sites taken down in years past, FuckYeahFTM preys on vulnerable female youth/children by promoting body issues in developing females, in female who may otherwise not have had them prior and in perpetuating female body issues by giving legitimacy that the female form is something females need to rid themselves of!

Remove this Tumblr account and show females of ALL ages female bodies are superior, proud and worth saving!

Sign our petition and save a lesbian youth from being swallowed up by the transgender whale. 

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Transgender Myths-Demystified

I have ever so briefly touched on this particular Transgender study and referenced it a few other times. Due to a recent job assigned to my wife regarding the study, I've done a more thorough examination of the study as a whole. It is worth mentioning to those trying to slay the transgender dragon, one of my wife's jobs is to develop tests for national continuing education for psychology professionals. And out of the voluminous number of transgender studies glorifying the copious benefits of transition, theLong-Term Follow-Up of Transsexual Persons Undergoing Sex Reassignment Surgeryis the study being now taught to psychologists and other mental health professionals.

The study is the long term follow up on over 300 trans males and females over a 20 year period. The study consists of both the psychological and physical results of transgender transition.

From the study:
"Transsexual individuals had been hospitalized for psychiatric morbidity other than gender identity disorder prior to sex reassignment about four times more often than controls."
Meaning, transgender patients were hospitalized for mental health issues BEFORE transition drugs/surgeries FOUR times more than the general public. Their mental health issues were NOT related to transgenderism, so transition should not have been expected to cure all that ailed them, despite the fact that we hear just that from transgender propagandists everyday.
"....survival of transsexual persons started to diverge from that of matched controls after about 10 years of follow-up."
This fully corroborates the data concluded by this blog and written about here on numerous occasions.
"The cause-specific mortality from suicide was much higher in sex-reassigned persons, compared to matched controls."
Transgender propagandists like to use the suicide card whenever they fear a red light is thrown in front of someone transitioning, regardless of age, physical health or other mental health issues. Exclaiming that IF transition isnt readily available to transgender patients, they may commit suicide. This and other studies found that the risk of suicide doesnt increase BEFORE transition, both suicide attempts and successes increases AFTER transition and the increase is significant!
"Mortality due to cardiovascular disease was moderately increased among the sex-reassigned."
While the study concluded that deaths from cardiovascular issues only moderately increased, bear in mind there are a number of cardiovascular issues that increase that affect quality of life without causing death....YET! 
 "...the numerically increased risk for malignancies was borderline statistically significant. The malignancies were lung cancer, tongue cancer, pharyngeal cancer, pancreas cancer, liver cancer, and unknown origin."
The increase in cancer in patients who've transitioned compared to controls, while less than the cardiovascular incidence, it is significant in cancer development.
"Sex-reassigned persons had a higher risk of inpatient care for a psychiatric disorder other than gender identity disorder than controls matched on birth year and birth sex. This held after adjustment for prior psychiatric morbidity"
Even after giving transgender patients an adjustment (clean slate) for their prior psychiatric history before transition, transgender patients AFTER transition still had a HIGHER incidence for psychiatric issues and hospitalization.

The study also followed up on the criminal behaviour of transgender patients both before and after transition and found:
"...regarding any crime, male-to-females had a significantly increased risk for crime compared to female controls but not compared to males."  "This indicates that they retained a male pattern regarding criminality. The same was true regarding violent crime."
In other words, even with estrogen injections and having their testicles removed, males who transition commit the same amount of crimes as non-transgender males period! Whether they look like men is in the eye of the beholder, but regardless, they continue to behave as men criminally.
"By contrast, female-to-males had higher crime rates than female controls but did not differ from male controls. This indicates a shift to a male pattern regarding criminality and that sex reassignment is coupled to increased crime rate in female-to-males. The same was true regarding violent crime."
 Meaning females who transition (take testosterone) shift from female criminality (low) to male criminality (high). The criminal shift trans females take also includes VIOLENT crime. Again something this blog has documented and discussed, from trans females committing rape against other women, to strangling their female partners to death.

The study concludes:
"This study found substantially higher rates of overall mortality, death from cardiovascular disease and suicide, suicide attempts, and psychiatric hospitalisations in sex-reassigned transsexual individuals compared to a healthy control population. This highlights that post surgical transsexuals are a risk group that need long-term psychiatric and somatic follow-up."
 and adds that transition is
"...not sufficient to remedy the high rates of morbidity and mortality found among transsexual persons."
As more and more unhappy people are seeking transgenderism as their own personal yellow brick road, what they and we are discovering when we look beyond the curtain isnt some deep personal truth to live by, but a pile of rotting corpses emerging with each hormone shot. Unfortunately like psychiatric treatments throughout history, a salient body count is the only key to unlocking the transgender lie.


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True Love and Butch Appreciation

My darling wife wrote this on her blog for me today and as it relates in part to Butches I wanted to share it.

True Love

Since I just found out today on Twitter that it is apparently Butch Appreciation Week (how did I miss that??), I would be remiss if I didn’t say how much I appreciate my Butch spouse, partner, and all-around sweetiepie, Dirt.
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Before I met Dirt, I had often been called “the least romantic person in the world.”  And I guess it was true. I would roll my eyes so hard at Hallmark movies and other sappy fare that I was at-risk for a concussion. I honestly thought that all the hokey romance stuff was for suckers.
And yet.  I always felt an underlying vague wistfulness that I couldn’t pinpoint. On the treadmill, I would repeatedly watch one of my favorite movies of all time, The Princess Bride (a movie, by the way, that Dirt steadfastly refuses to watch with me, which I suppose is rather ironic), and I would snort with derision at the sappy kissing parts ~ but somehow underneath my cynicism and sarcasm, I must have wanted what that movie was basically about…true love.

And then I met Dirt. And suddenly, all the love songs ever written suddenly made sense to me.  It was like a cartoon-style proverbial lightbulb suddenly appearing over my head.  Every love cliche ever written suddenly became real.  Birds singing, blue skies…well, you get the picture.
There are so many things I could say that it would take more than a dissertation to write, so here are just a few of the many things I love and appreciate about her every day:

I love that she is the most stubborn, outspoken, opinionated person I have ever met. I love it that she is completely and unapologetically herself, regardless of the approval or disapproval of others.  I love that she is up by 6:00 a.m. and fully coherent.  I love that she loves our cats with a fierce yet mushy devotion.  I love that she can cook anything from scratch (without a recipe), and that she comes up with creative meals every day.  I love it that she realizes that she is Butch and can still love cats and cook delicious meals.  I love the way she dresses, and the way her close-shaved hair feels when I rub the back of her head.  I love that she works out every day, even when she is exhausted from work. I love that she makes me laugh so hard that my sides hurt and my mascara runs. I love that she makes up silly songs about our cat, Ari. I love how she supports me and encourages me and never makes me feel bad for being a super-klutz.

I love being in love with her, because I have learned that happiness is not just about how much you love someone, it also is about how you feel about yourself when you are with her.

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Testosterone Rapidly Aging Transmen

In documenting female transition, particularly via the Trans Trending posts, when I first began documenting female transition, most of the women transitioning were somewhere between 35 and 50. Because they were older women, the aging effects that testosterone had, werent as noticeable in the short term use. Now that (lesbian) female youths are the dominant females transitioning, testosterone's aging effects on the female body, even in short term use, is staggering and blatant.

For example, this twenty something female recently posted a picture prior to testosterone side by side with her on testosterone for one year. Lets take a dissected look:
The picture in full:
In just ONE year, this attractive youthful young woman's skin has greyed, wrinkled and lined from testosterone poisoning. The changes we can see on her face are scary, but what is more frightening/worrisome are the aging effects and other changes we dont see on her internal organs.

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Trans Trending-Who is Transitioning-FTMs-Testosterone and Autoimmune Disease

 Gryffin Age 25 (less than 2 yrs on T)

Name Age 22 (2.5 yrs on T)

Max Age 16 (14 months on T)

Jake Age 25 (3 yrs on T)

Tyler Age 22 (less than a yr on T)

Logan Age 21 (3.5 yrs on T) 

Andy Age 21 (2 yrs on T)

Mal Age 27 (2 yrs on T)

Carter Age 25 (2.5 yrs on T)


In the early days of doing these posts, most Trenders were somewhere between 35-55. So even when on testosterone for a year or two, the aging wasnt as obvious and the visible appearance of unhealthiness didnt manifest until four or five years into transition. As Trans Trending has become all the rage for lesbian youth and any unhappy malcontented or sexually abused teenage girl, the harmful effects of female youths high dosing testosterone even in early stages is all to clear.
The above question was recently posed in a trans female tumblr group, rather than to an endocrinologist like it should have been. But given the anti hippocratic atmosphere revolving around transgenderism, an endo doctor might not prove any better help than a confused teenage girl.

What a good endocrinologist might tell this young woman is her elevated Urobilinogen is due to her testosterone use, how testosterone affects her female immune system and how a compromised immune system can affect her health.
Testosterone in the high dosage required for transgender changes in females causes an increase in red blood cells. This increase occurs while testosterone hampers estrogen production and the powerful (normal female) immune response is lowered. Autoimmunity (production of antibodies against the tissues of your own body) arises in effort to correct the imbalance in red blood cell count, killing red blood cells and not taking numbers. As estrogen levels rise toward the end of the Testosterone injection cycle the autoimmune response may correct itself, or it may not. Either way, the whole kill or be killed cycle begins every time testosterone is administered.

Transgender health issues like the one mentioned above continue to be addressed within transgender circles for fear that bringing health concerns to medical professionals will result in removing their drug (hormone) of choice. The hormone addiction is strengthened by coupling with patient's manufactured (trans) identity which transgender patients use as a crutch to support weak or wounded egos. In a nutshell, fear of losing hormone drugs which support the trans identity facade revealing an ego that cannot (or the patient feels cannot) stand on its own, outweighs all common sense and health risks or scares, including outweighing mortality itself.

No matter how its diced sliced or coloured, testosterone's harmful effects on females who transition is as clear as the illness on their face.

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Doing Woman Different: Sophie Scho...

Mikaël MJ Monette-Death of a LESBIAN

It has came to my attention that another young lesbian woman who transitioned only 10 months ago has committed suicide.
 Mikael's real name was Marie Julie:
MJ clearly got caught up like many young dykes into the Trans Trending vortex that is transgenderism. MJ was your garden variety mid range sporty dyke before transition:
A loved dyke:
 Maybe even a proud dyke for a minute:
Our lesbian youth is so busy yelling at the world not to hate them, mistaking the direction of the real hatred from within.

MJ was doing her residency at a very good university, McGill. She was married to her lesbian partner. She was loved and respected by many from all accounts. She was posting on FTM FB groups on the day she died:
Out of respect for MJ's wife I wont post her comments regarding her changing attraction toward men (from taking T) and other trans females or their bedroom problems. But I cant help but suspect at least some of this lent itself to MJ taking her life. Given how on board her family was with her (rather than remain a dyke) transition (from what I gathered) must have also pained her deeply, right down to the condolences missing someone who wasnt Marie-Julie, but someone MJ was trying to be for someone/s else.

I never knew you in life Marie-Julie, but in death, despite all the obstacles you Marie-Julie (MJ) are my LESBIAN sister.

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Lesbian Hunger (a joint piece)

That moment when your Lesbian ribs meet your Lesbian stomach. You ALL know what I'm talking about. Hated, feared, despised, zero clout. Our Lesbian image tattered and torn. We dont exist outside of Het male porn. Where girl on girl is portrayed as right, our Lesbian voices too few to weigh in THEY are wrong! For a minute there back in some Gay 90's when suddenly there was Melissa, Ellen and KD, we thought it might not be too long. Just as suddenly, we gone or watered down.

Lesbians are fodder or faux, where in male fantasies we never say NO. Invisible. We settle for any hint of Lesbian colour. No matter magazines, books or movies. The first ten minutes of any lesbian film its lickety-lick with another woman. By movies end our Lesbian is murdered or worse she falls into the loving arms of just the Right man. In fiction she's quasimodo, only less attractive. She's mannish, a predator of women, lonely and damaged. She's a drug addict, an alcoholic, a first class mess. A nympho luring innocent young women into giving her sex. Lesbian characters are under developed, one dimension. They love kissing girls for male attention.

But we're all so hungry, starving for any lesbian glimpse, we accept Hollywood filth. We pay good money to see a second rate actress in a secondary role go from kissing the female movie's star to riding some random guy's pole. Lesbian food rations too thin for Lesbian demand. We are so famished, we'll do anything to see that single lesbian kiss, no matter how the rest of the show turns out. We shout and high five, that kiss makes us feel like we're really alive. But as long as we settle for remnants, our Lesbian floors will remain bare. Be brave, dont be scared. Who better to tell our story than us? Go to your social media sites, cause a ruckus, cause a fuss! Our stories are much too sacred to be lost or turned to rust or ruin. Give our Lesbian children something more than we had to chew.

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Lesbians Open Your Eyes by Mrs Dirt

I've been thinking a lot lately about how lesbians have been so starved to see ourselves in television or film that we will often hungrily devour the tiniest morsel of lesbian love, no matter how meager, unhealthy, or unsatisfying.
There's been a lot written recently on the propensity of writers to kill off lesbian characters, so I won't rehash all those grim statistics and depressing examples. I will suffice it to warn you that if you see a lesbian on TV or in a movie, you will probably want to consider not getting too attached. You'll thank me later.
And:  even if a lesbian character miraculously does not die a horrible death, it is still very unlikely that there will be a true "happily ever after" ending. All-too-often, the (so-called) "
lesbian" will end up with a man (Note: she clearly wasn't really a lesbian then, huh?!?). Or, the lesbian may end up in prison, end up alone (when she doesn't want to be), end up on-the-run, or end up trapped in some kind of weird alternate universe. Or, lesbian relationships are often portrayed as drama-fests of cheating, lying, screaming, and conniving.
Alternatively, some shows tease lesbians with subtext and hints of flirtation, but never actually deliver an up-front lesbian relationship to the incredibly loyal lesbian fans who are still buying their merchandise and showing up for their conventions over a decade after the show is over. Sadly, the reason for this cowardly tendency is usually to keep the possibility of a heterosexual-relationship-storyline open...because we wouldn't want to disappoint the straight folks, who only have approximately 5,479,032,865,321,123 of their own love stories to fall back on, now would we? No, that just wouldn't do at all.
And yet, despite the numerous slaps-in-the-face we have received from the writers, shows, and movies we have supported, lesbians somehow remain hopeful. Surely, we think, somewhere, somehow, somebody is going to portray us accurately and not disappoint us.  We still watch the shows, we still buy the movie tickets, we still root for the characters, we still buy the merchandise, we still invest our precious time and attention. Only to be crushed again. And again. And again. And again. And yet again.
It is time that we open our eyes and stop settling for less than we deserve. We need to attack this problem with our money, our time, and our attention.  Lesbians need to stop gobbling down the putrid scraps that have been carelessly and thoughtlessly tossed at us. We need to stop wasting our breath protesting our angst to the very people who screwed us over (because, if they cared, it would never have happened to begin with).
Lesbians need to focus on ourselves for a change.  We need to prioritize ourselves over the wants and wishes of everyone else. We need to write our own stories. We need to support lesbian writers, producers, actors, and filmmakers who we can trust to tell our stories authentically. We need to stop giving our money, our attention, and our time to projects that treat us like an afterthought, an embarrassment, a titillation, a sensationalized plot-device, and/or a freak-show.
Lesbians deserve better. It's time we demand it.

A Butch Lesbian Weighs In on the Public Bathroom Debate



I have written from time to time on the Butch Bathroom Blues, i.e. the difficulties Butch lesbian deal with from toddler to grave whenever they use a school bathroom or public toilet. In the current public bathroom (locker room/showers) turmoil plaguing news (papers/stations) and social media, little has been said from Butch lesbians/hard dykes. And where it has, it is the complete transgender propaganda machine hailing how transgender bathroom rights will make "gender non conforming" lesbians' bathroom experience better. First off, as a biological female, EVERYTHING I do is FEMALE! I conform perfectly well with my SEX thank you very much!

Secondly, as a lesbian who has been mistaken for male from age three onward, I know full well the shit Butches have to deal with when using the public loo. Hard stares scrutinizing what sex we are while we wash our hands. Harsher comments when our sex is realized and then our sexuality presumed. Embarrassment and shame when a woman walks in while we're washing our hands and quickly apologizes to us for coming into the "wrong" bathroom, only to go back out, look at the door and realize she was right the first time-then doesnt return. Walking into the Ladies past a woman walking out and 30 seconds later having a restaurant or store manager knocking on the stall door saying men aren't allowed into this bathroom. Humiliation having to come out of the stall to tell the manager you are in fact a WOMAN! The anger when physically removed from bar bathrooms by bouncers. The astonishment when in lesbian bars, lesbians themselves presume Butches are gay men and ask you to stay out of their toilets.

Thirdly and most importantly, for as many times as I (and other Butches/Hard dykes) have had to deal with bathroom flack, a hundred times over we've seen the fear in the eyes of women when for a brief moment they thought a man was in their locker room or bathroom. Fear that WE too know, regardless of how we appear, because we too are women-therefore just as vulnerable to rape as any other woman. Fear we know as women because ALL women grow up under the threat of male violence/rape. It is THAT intimate female knowledge that has kept us from ever making a bathroom fuss. THAT intimate female knowledge of going out of our way NOT to use public Lady's facilities, even though of course it would be:
  • easier to relieve yourself at the restaurant rather than hold it till you get home
  • easier not to have to pee five times before you leave home just so you wont need to use a public toilet later
  • easier to use a public toilet rather than leave someplace you like (so you can go home and pee)
  • easier to use the gym locker room rather than go home from work to change, then drive back to where your gym is
  • easier to use the gym's bathroom rather than cut your workout short cuz you need to go home and pee
 No matter how much easier using a public bathroom or locker room is, as a woman and as a lesbian (a woman who loves women), the minuscule advantages of public toilets do not outweigh potentially inspiring fear or triggering past sexual trauma in a single woman alive EVER!

I dont give a fuck what laws are passed allowing males, flying monkeys or neutered cyclops into women's private public facilities, knowing what I know as a female, as a Butch-I will remain going out of MY way so that I do not add to the already monolithic rapists threats, fears and realities harrying the female race.

I hope to see more lesbians telling their experiences with frightening women in public Ladies facilities and how they deal with biological needs vs their love for womankind.

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